Books
Talking to Kids
https://www.amazon.com/Before-Sex-Talk-Theology-Approach/dp/B09189YXTR
by Linda Noble & Linda Stewart
This book provides parents and mentors with short chapters unpacking themes from Theology of the Body as well as applications that completely transform the way faith-based talks usually address these topics, if they have addressed them at all. Each chapter is followed by a related scripture, discussion for younger and older children, activities, and a prayer.
https://store.focusonthefamily.com/a-chickens-guide-to-talking-turkey-with-your-kids-about-sex/
Parents Often Imagine Their Kids to be Nonsexual Until Their Wedding Night.
The truth of the matter is that we’re sexual from day one. What are you going to communicate to your kids about this, knowing that they are sexual creatures today? Your kids need you to talk with them about sex. No one else will do. They’ve been discovering their sexuality since the day they were born, but they need you to help them deal with the changes and challenges of puberty. Those conversations that are so vital for your children’s health and happiness don’t have to be difficult if you’re prepared. A Chicken’s Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids about Sex helps you build a strong, trust-filled relationship with your son or daughter to prepare you for the intimate talks you need to have when “the changes” hit. And because every child grows in a unique way, this book tells you what to teach but lets you determine when. Inside this book are the tools you need to help your kids not only understand their growing bodies, but also cope with the temptations and social pressures that go with them. Practical, expert, and down-to-earth, A Chicken’s Guide is a powerful resource not only for moms and dads, but also for pastors, counselors, and anyone with a heart for kids.
- Facing the Facts: The Truth about Sex and You
- https://store.focusonthefamily.com/facing-the-facts-the-truth-about-sex-and-you/
- Puberty is an exciting but often stressful time of transition to adulthood. It marks the beginning of significant changes in a child’s relationships with their parents and with the opposite sex. Facing the Facts will give your child clear and comprehensive information to help them understand what’s happening to their body and why God designed it that way.
- God Made All of Me
- https://store.focusonthefamily.com/god-made-all-of-me/
- It’s easy to convey the message to children that their bodies – or particular parts of their bodies – are shameful. This misconception fuels confusion, embarrassment, and secrecy, and often prevents children from recognizing or reporting sexual abuse. God Made All of Me is a simply-told, beautifully-illustrated story to help families talk about these sensitive issues with two- to eight-year-old children. The book equips parents to talk with both boys and girls about their bodies and to help them understand the difference between the appropriate and inappropriate touch of others. God Made All of Me allows families to build a first line of defense against sexual abuse in the safety of their own homes.
- The Focus on the Family Guide to Talking with Your Kids About Sex
- https://store.focusonthefamily.com/the-focus-on-the-family-guide-to-talking-with-your-kids-about-sex/
Sexual images saturate today’s culture–and children will learn about sex somewhere. But research shows that they want to learn from the parents they trust.Talking about sex doesn’t have to be a fear-filled challenge. The Focus on the Family(R) Guide to Talking with Your Kids about Sex shows parents how to talk with confidence to their kids about sex and sexuality. This candid resource is full of the latest information, practical insights, and age-appropriate answers to the questions parents and children ask about sex. Focus on the Family’s Physicians Resource Council, along with research from The Medical Institute for Sexual Health provides parents with the tools and empowering encouragement they need in order to communicate more effectively and biblically about sex, self-control, and self-respect at every stage of a child’s development.
The God’s Design for Sex series helps parents establish a biblical view of sexuality in the home. The parent’s guide, and four age-appropriate books, enable families to develop a healthy dialogue about sexuality. They provide children the foundation of truth and knowledge they need for when they are inevitably bombarded with confusing and potentially harmful messages about sex.
About the Authors
Each book communicates clear information and illustrations, delivered in a biblically holistic way. https://www.christiansexed.com/about-the-authors/
https://www.thomaslickona.com/
Thomas Lickona (2018)
“Using cutting-edge advances in moral development, brain research, and traditional wisdom, Lickona shares strategies for promoting kindness. Chock-full of tips for creating a home that cultivates empathy . . . essential advice for all parents and teachers interested in character development.”—Library Journal. Includes chapter on how to help our kids avoid the dangers of a hypersexualized culture and find true love.
Gender Identity. Pornography. Hook-up culture. Same-Sex
Attraction. Masturbation. Abuse.
These issues are the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what our children are being forced to navigate at increasingly younger ages. As a parent, are you leading your family in conversations, so that your voice is the first one they hear on these sensitive issues? Do you know what the Bible says–and doesn’t say–on the issues surrounding sexuality and gender? Do your children know what you believe and why you believe it?
You are not alone if you feel as though you don’t know how and when to have these conversations. Many parents worry about having “The Talk” with their children because they are concerned about bringing it up too early, they are uncomfortable talking about sex, or they feel unprepared to answer questions that their child might ask. In “I Can’t Say That!,” Dr. Gilbert walks parents through age-appropriate conversations and teaches parents how to create a culture of conversation through micro-conversations.
In his roles as a counselor and professor, Dr. Gilbert has heard repeatedly from young adults that they never had conversations about the complicated issues surrounding sexuality with their parents and they wish that they had. His motivation in “I Can’t Say That!” is to equip parents with the information they need so that they can in turn equip their children to make choices from a biblical sexual ethic.
https://www.amazon.com/Learning-About-Sex/dp/B08RDPV5MV
Why Boys and Girls are Different: For Boys Ages 3-5
by Carol Greene
This book, the first in the newly revised Learning About Sex series for boys, will guide you in the often difficult task of introducing and explaining human sexuality. Through simple, age-appropriate text and pictures, boys ages 3 to 5 discover that the similarities and differences between boys and girls are created by God for specific reasons.
Where Do Babies Come From?: For Boys Ages 6-8
by Concordia Publishing House
This book, the second in the newly revised Learning About Sex series for boys, will guide you in the often difficult task of introducing and explaining human sexuality. Through simple, age-appropriate text and pictures, boys ages 6 to 8 will better understand how a baby develops and discover that each person is special and important!
How You Are Changing: For Boys 9-11
by Jane Graver
An honest, Christian approach to the body, relationships, and sex. The changes that preteens experience can be very stressful. How You are Changing is the third book in the Learning About Sex series for boys. The book explains to 9- to 11-year-olds that these changes are normal and are a part of God’s perfect, unfolding plan for their growth and development. God knows His children and is with them every step of the way!
Sex & the New You: For Boys Ages 12-14
by Concordia Publishing House
This book, the fourth in the newly revised Learning About Sex series for boys, helps young men ages 12 to 14 build confidence as they continue to mature not only physically, but also emotionally, socially, and spiritually. Sex & the New You will answer young men s questions in a simple and accurate way, reminding them that they can trust in God’s perfect plans for their lives.
Love, Sex & God: For Young Men Ages 14 and Up
by Bill Ameiss
This book, the fifth in the newly revised Learning About Sex series for boys, will help young men ages 14 and up learn to respect their sexuality and honor God. Love, Sex & God addresses issues such as pornography, dating, and premarital sex, answering young men s questions in a simple and accurate way and always reminding them of God s never-ending love.
Where Do Babies Come From?: For Girls Ages 6-8
by Concordia Publishing House
This book, the second in the newly revised Learning About Sex series for girls, will guide you in the often difficult task of introducing and explaining human sexuality. Through simple, age-appropriate text and pictures, girls ages 6 to 8 will better understand how a new baby develops and discover that each person is special and important!
How You Are Changing: For Girls 9-11
by Jane Graver
The changes that preteens experience can be very stressful. How You are Changing is the third book in the Learning About Sex series for girls. The book explains to 9- to 11-year-olds that these changes are normal and are a part of God’s perfect, unfolding plan for their growth and development. God knows His children and is with them every step of the way!
Sex & the New You: For Girls Ages 12-14
by Concordia Publishing House
This book, the fourth in the newly revised Learning About Sex series for girls, helps young women ages 12 to 14 build confidence as they continue to mature not only physically but also emotionally, socially, and spiritually. Sex & the New You will answer young women s questions in a simple and accurate way, reminding them that they can trust in God’s perfect plans for their lives.
Love, Sex & God: For Young Women Ages 14 and Up
by Bill Ameiss
This book, the fifth in the newly revised Learning about Sex series for girls, will help young women ages 14 and up learn to respect their sexuality and honor God. Love, Sex & God addresses issues such as pornography, dating, and premarital sex, answering young women s questions in a simple and accurate way and always reminding them of God’s never-ending love.
MI Team, Dr. Fitch, Dr. Meg Meeker, Melissa Cox and others
Sexual images saturate today’s culture. Because children are being introduced to these images even before they can read, parents need a resource to help them talk to their kids about sex. Unlike any other book on the market, Questions Kids Ask about Sex offers a biblical and comprehensive approach to sexuality. Melissa R. Cox, cocreator of the best-selling Focus on the Family Complete Book of Baby and Child Care, has collaborated with The Medical Institute for Sexual Health to deliver age-appropriate, thoughtful responses to the most flabbergasting questions kids ask about sexual identity, issues, and practices. Tested by educators, physicians, and parents across the country, this resource also offers helpful sidebars, straightforward advice, and empowering affirmation. This is the ideal guide to developing the open, respectful, and effective conversation kids need-and want.
Pornography
Want a natural and comfortable way to talk to your kids about pornography? Good Pictures Bad Pictures is a read-aloud story about a mom and dad who explain what pornography is, why it’s dangerous, and how to reject it. With Good Pictures Bad Pictures, your child will never be caught off guard by disturbing videos or peer pressure! The 5-point CAN DO Plan™ teaches kids exactly what to do to protect their young minds when they see pornography.
Parents don’t need to wonder what to say–simply read Good Pictures Bad Pictures to your child and move forward with confidence! You can even use this book before beginning the sex talks!
Young children deserve to be armed early against internet dangers. Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr. makes it easy for parents to protect their young kids ages 3 to 6. Using gentle, age-appropriate messages, children will learn to Turn, Run & Tell when they are accidentally exposed to inappropriate content. Written by best-selling author Kristen A. Jenson of the original Good Pictures Bad Pictures book, the Jr. version is a comfortable, effective way for proactive parents to empower their young kids with their first internal filter!
January 1, 2016 – Barna Group & Josh McDowell
Pornography is pervasive, permeating our culture from shop windows to websites, premium cable shows to smartphone apps. Where once it was kept literally under wraps, used furtively in secret and shame, porn is now a standard feature of everyday life, seen by most teens and young adults as less morally offensive than failing to recycle.
Theology of Her Body: Discovering the Strength and Mission of Masculinity/Discovering the Beauty and Mystery of Femininity
by Jason Evert
Theology of Her Body and Theology of His Body will feed your teens with liberating answers to their most pressing questions about love and sexuality. These books offer solid, relevant teachings in a language teens understand. But more than just presenting the truth itself, they deliver the tools teens need to achieve the greatness for which they were created.
This book comes at a critical time, because tragically, many teens have forgotten their calling, or worse, have never heard it. As a result, they don t know who they are or who and what they are meant to be for one another. This means they often resort to using instead of authentically loving others and themselves.
Theology of Her Body and Theology of His Body are two books in one. Teens are encouraged to not only learn the truth about their own body, but also to discover the beauty of the opposite sex, for it is in seeing the complementarity of the two sexes that one discovers the real meaning of his or her own body. This is the perfect companion to the Theology of the Body for Teens program, and is also ideal for teens new to the Theology of the Body. One thing is certain: anyone who reads this book will never look at his/her body, or anybody, in the same way again.
In these books, teens will discover:
- How to live a life that will make them happy and fulfilled.
- That their sexual desires are good and holy and actually designed by God.
- The amazing meaning of their body and that it is very good.
- Their true calling and purpose in life.
- How to be the man or woman of greatness they are destined to be.
- The meaning and power behind the words Beauty, Femininity, Strength and Mission.
- What it means to be created male and female in God’s image of love.
- The ways we have messed up God’s original plan for us and how to fully restore it.
Note: this is a unique flip book where you have TOB for His Body on the cover, then you flip it over and it is TOB for Her Body, so 2 in 1.
by Daniel Weiss and Joshua Glaser
Parents today are the first generation to raise kids in a digitally connected, porn-saturated world. Porn can be accessed in locker rooms, cafeterias, classrooms, and bedrooms—anywhere kids have access to digital devices. Worse yet, pornography that was once considered fringe has become increasingly mainstream. All this is misshaping children’s understanding of sexuality, stunting their capacity to process emotions, and crippling their ability to form long-term relationships.
In Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World, Daniel Weiss and Joshua Glaser offer practical and spiritual guidance for parents seeking to help their teens navigate this pornographic digital landscape. Combining the latest research with personal and professional experience to guide families into the goodness for which God created us all, the authors skillfully outline the steps necessary for parents to move beyond merely surviving pornography’s challenges onto a rewarding path where their children can truly thrive.
by Jill C. Manning, PhD
In this book, Dr. Manning speaks directly to the young people she calls the “internet generation.” With her gentle touch as a licensed therapist and armed with the truth of many years of research, Dr. Manning deftly answers some of the most pressing questions teens have when it comes to pornography. Drawn from her work with boys in her therapy practice, Manning addresses such topics as, “How does pornography affect people?” “Can pornography teach me things about sexuality that I need to know in the future?” “What do I do if I can’t stop looking at pornography?” and many more.
Talk Sex with Teens
by Linda Noble & Linda Stewart
This book provides parents and mentors with short chapters unpacking themes from Theology of the Body as well as applications that completely transform the way faith-based talks usually address these topics, if they have addressed them at all. Each chapter is followed by a related scripture, discussion for younger and older children, activities, and a prayer.
by John and Lucas Fort
Are you a dad who knows you need to talk with your son about sexual integrity but you don’t know what to say? Worried it will strain your relationship with him? Concerned he might find out something about your past and lose respect for you?
These are questions that compelled John and his son Lucas to write the first edition of this book in 2015. Since then Lucas and John have improved this guide so that conversations about sex between a father and son create an even deeper bond between them. The result is this completely revised and updated resource; now an even more powerful tool for fathers and sons. This book consists of eight, short lessons that the two of you read together. Each lesson is followed by a clearly outlined conversation guide to take the guess work out of how to keep your communication positive and on track.
By a father and son, for fathers and sons to read together.
by Lisa and Jason Frost
Youth are born into a pixelated reality, where sexting, swiping, pornification, and ghosting are the social norms. In light of a trillion-dollar tech industry whose mission is to capture and monetize attention, guiding teenagers’ online interactions with rules and content filters alone is not enough. The Glass Between Us is a value-based guide for screen-driven challenges, filled with stories, interviews, practical tips, conversation starters and evidence-driven solutions to tackle the complexities of our teens’ digital lives. This book presents a new framework that empowers teens to chart new courses that lead them away from the exploitive side of the web and closer to the vision and purpose they desire for their lives.
Based on years of work with therapists and pastors across the country, Honest Talk integrates a Biblical view of God’s design for sex with the latest information on what really helps children ages five to eighteen strive for sexual wholeness. More than just information, the book demonstrates a relational model that helps reduce parents’ anxiety and helps children move toward a resilient and healthy sexuality. Stressing the development of emotional awareness, Honest Talk shows how to initiate conversations about sexuality at different ages of childhood and the teenage years.
Joe S. McIlhaney Jr, MD, Freda McKissic Bush, MD
How sex is rewiring your brain—for good and for bad.
What does a three-pound brain have to do with one’s sex life? A lot, actually. Hooked is about what’s happening to your brain when you’re having sex. With scientific data put in layman’s terms, this book demonstrates that:
- Sexual activity releases chemicals in the brain, creating emotional bonds between partners. This is great news for marriages!
- Once formed, however, breaking these bonds can have damaging effects on the brain such as depression and difficulty bonding with someone else in the future.
- The continual forming and breaking of these bonds can have permanent effects on a person’s brain.
PLUS! This updated edition also includes an addendum about the effects of pornography on the brain.
All this data about bonding, sex, and pornography has important implications in a casual sex culture. Regardless of what we wish were true, the facts tell us “safe sex” isn’t as safe as it seems. Learn about your brain, the positive effects of sex within permanently committed relationships, and how you can protect yourself (especially your brain) from the dangers of casual sex.
Gender Identity. Pornography. Hook-up culture. Same-Sex
Attraction. Masturbation. Abuse.
These issues are the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what our children are being forced to navigate at increasingly younger ages. As a parent, are you leading your family in conversations, so that your voice is the first one they hear on these sensitive issues? Do you know what the Bible says–and doesn’t say–on the issues surrounding sexuality and gender? Do your children know what you believe and why you believe it?
You are not alone if you feel as though you don’t know how and when to have these conversations. Many parents worry about having “The Talk” with their children because they are concerned about bringing it up too early, they are uncomfortable talking about sex, or they feel unprepared to answer questions that their child might ask. In “I Can’t Say That!,” Dr. Gilbert walks parents through age-appropriate conversations and teaches parents how to create a culture of conversation through micro-conversations.
In his roles as a counselor and professor, Dr. Gilbert has heard repeatedly from young adults that they never had conversations about the complicated issues surrounding sexuality with their parents and they wish that they had. His motivation in “I Can’t Say That!” is to equip parents with the information they need so that they can in turn equip their children to make choices from a biblical sexual ethic.
MI Team, Dr. Fitch, Dr. Meg Meeker, Melissa Cox and others
Sexual images saturate today’s culture. Because children are being introduced to these images even before they can read, parents need a resource to help them talk to their kids about sex. Unlike any other book on the market, Questions Kids Ask about Sex offers a biblical and comprehensive approach to sexuality. Melissa R. Cox, cocreator of the best-selling Focus on the Family Complete Book of Baby and Child Care, has collaborated with The Medical Institute for Sexual Health to deliver age-appropriate, thoughtful responses to the most flabbergasting questions kids ask about sexual identity, issues, and practices. Tested by educators, physicians, and parents across the country, this resource also offers helpful sidebars, straightforward advice, and empowering affirmation. This is the ideal guide to developing the open, respectful, and effective conversation kids need-and want.
Tom and Judy Lickona, with William Boudreau, M.D.
“The Lickonas and Dr. Boudreau hit the nail right on the head in this book. They address topics from a whole person point of view- medically, emotionally, & spiritually. They address common questions of teens and give the facts as well as suggestions on how to live a chaste life. This is the best book on the subject I’ve read so far. Presents the info. in a straight-forward manner and presents it in a non-judgmental way so if a person has strayed too far, suggestions are given on how to get back on track to leading a chaste life.” Amazon reader review
April 18, 2017 – Andy Crouch
Making conscientious choices about technology in our families is more than just using internet filters and determining screen time limits for our children. It’s about developing wisdom, character and courage in the way we use digital media rather than accepting technology’s promises of ease, instant gratification and the world’s knowledge at our fingertips. And it’s definitely not just about the kids.
Sex & Science
Joe S. McIlhaney Jr, MD, Freda McKissic Bush, MD
How sex is rewiring your brain—for good and for bad.
What does a three-pound brain have to do with one’s sex life? A lot, actually. Hooked is about what’s happening to your brain when you’re having sex. With scientific data put in layman’s terms, this book demonstrates that:
- Sexual activity releases chemicals in the brain, creating emotional bonds between partners. This is great news for marriages!
- Once formed, however, breaking these bonds can have damaging effects on the brain such as depression and difficulty bonding with someone else in the future.
- The continual forming and breaking of these bonds can have permanent effects on a person’s brain.
PLUS! This updated edition also includes an addendum about the effects of pornography on the brain.
All this data about bonding, sex, and pornography has important implications in a casual sex culture. Regardless of what we wish were true, the facts tell us “safe sex” isn’t as safe as it seems. Learn about your brain, the positive effects of sex within permanently committed relationships, and how you can protect yourself (especially your brain) from the dangers of casual sex.
Sex & Theology
by Linda Noble & Linda Stewart
This book provides parents and mentors with short chapters unpacking themes from Theology of the Body as well as applications that completely transform the way faith-based talks usually address these topics, if they have addressed them at all. Each chapter is followed by a related scripture, discussion for younger and older children, activities, and a prayer.
Book Version:
https://mamabearapologetics.com/guide-to-sexuality/
Study Guide Version:
https://mamabearapologetics.com/guide-to-sexuality/
Starting at a young age, kids are being fed damaging misinformation about sexuality, gender identity, and human biology. As a parent, it’s up to you to help your children understand God’s truth about these integral concepts in the face of the candy-coated lies that saturate today’s world.
As society continues to blur the lines of what is good, true, and acceptable, God’s standards remain clear and unchanging. This book will give you the wisdom to confidently raise your children to understand sex and gender through a biblical lens.